Being that its Valentine's Week, what better time to talk about self-love and self-compassion. For some of us this holiday sucks anyway, or its great, or its just another day. But regardless of how you feel about it is all about giving and receiving external love. So instead I am asking you to give yourself a gift and take a stand and make a commitment to be compassionate with yourself.
No matter what and all the time.
Release the pressure valve on yourself to be perfect, to have control over everything, to do ALL the things and then beat yourself up for not getting it all done. Spend time listening to how you talk to yourself and ask if its loving or if it is critical. Ask yourself what does compassion towards myself look like, feel like, sound like.
And then do that.
I want you to explore how easy it is to give compassion to others...and how to accept compassion from others, and why it may be more difficult for you to give to yourself. Where are the places in which you are expecting compassion from others, and if you don't get it how it makes you feel. Because we cannot rely on getting it from others, it is nice when we do, but only we can take a stand for ourselves and treat ourselves like the sovereign queens that we are.
This means even when we screw up. Because we are not perfect, we are perfectly imperfect and we need to forgive ourselves when we do something that is not shiny and brilliant. Or when we make a choice that does not serve our highest good, or when we hurt someone else. Self-compassion and forgiveness does not mean not being accountable and responsible for our actions and choices and how we treat ourselves and others. When we need to apologize, we apologize. But what it does mean is forgiving yourself more easily and gracefully, taking a look at the choice or behavior and work with it, with fierce love, and knowing that we did the best we could with what we had and knew in that moment. Lean into old stories in which you still have not forgiven yourself, journal on it, journal on why you are still holding onto judgement, guilt, shame, and then forgive and release.
Dive into all the places where you feel like you should be doing more, knowing more, controlling more, and know that you are doing enough, that we have very little control over the outcomes of anything, and that what we CAN do is just be present, do our best with what we have in the moment, and bring joy into every moment.
I am going to share with you an ancient Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness. This can be done towards others.I would like for you to practice it towards yourself. Every day if necessary.
It is called the
I am sorry,
please forgive me,
I love you.
That's it. Simple and yet so powerful, say it 9 times each day for 40 days and you will feel a shift. In fact I would love to hear how it created a shift in you. And for more information on this practice you can visithttps://upliftconnect.com/hawaiian-practice-of-for...