I thought of beginner's mind as an opposite message to do the new, so I asked the Divine, and consulted several oracle decks, and as these things tend to happen, every card I pulled had the message of beginner's mind, play, curiosity, and create beauty. So I figured, its best not to ignore the messages. And so how do I weave together not starting new things with beginner's mind?Read More
I write this to you as an invitation, to consider particularly if you are in business, but also in your personal and spiritual life....what can you deepen into without always being in growth, expansion, and creating the new mode?Read More
In this week between Christmas and New Year's I am seeing a lot of women feel as though they are in the in-between space, not really feeling like doing anything because they are decompressing from the holiday madness, and at the same time feeling BEHIND because they don't have all their visions and goals figured out by Jan 1st. and are guilting themselves for not doing anything. I have said this before and will keep saying it until I see my beloveds begin to relax and be gentle with themselves around the incessant push to do vision boards, goals, create calendars and planning for the next year by January 1.
Having everything figured out by January 1 is a man-made concept and a complete illusion.
Now don't get me wrong, I love visioning, I love strategizing, I love having structure and direction. It feeds me, and it is the container for my energy to be as powerful as possible. But I also love to honor my rhythms, align with the cycles of nature, deeply listen to what it is I actually desire, be fluid, be open to the mystery, and to receiving surprises. And to sometimes do absolutely nothing. And to sometimes NOT KNOW what is coming next. Because really none of us do, we can just enjoy the journey in the present moment. And if those things you do on a daily basis make you joyous and ecstatic, and fuel the vision, then truly that is all we can ask for. The more we release the idea that we control anything, the more present we can be.
So let's talk about your vision for a moment. 90% of the women I talk to, have a vision or create a vision board and more often than not it only addresses business vision, and it only represents a high level vision, not the activities and day to day living it takes to bring the vision into form. The rest of life is completely left out. Why is that? I know many of us love, love, love our work in the world, we are passionate about it, but it is still just a means to an end which is living a life we love and sharing our gifts with the world. Whether that means self-care, family time, recharging at the beach, writing the book, our physical and spiritual practice, or just being present, leaving those pieces out of our vision means we will feel incomplete at best; stressed, exhausted, and burnt out (no matter how much we love our work) at worst. And then we have nothing left to give to ourselves or anyone else. So please, when you are developing your vision, develop your life vision; the work is just a component of that, and the work is the day to day living that hopefully brings you pleasure, but is not the only thing that brings you pleasure.
"Your business vision is most powerful when it is developed in light of your personal vision. The reason so many people fail to follow through when things become difficult is due to this lack of connection to their personal lives." - 12 Week Year
So take your time creating your vision, there is no hurry, there is no need to complete it by January 1. In fact, I am generally still in visioning time until February 1st. And I don't create a brand spanking new vision every year. When you have created a life vision that is truly in resonance with what your heart and soul desires, then the vision doesn't change much. What does change from year to year can be how I want to feel, what I desire to do, how I desire to be, and what I desire to put my life force energy into, as well as, who I desire to connect with to keep living the dream, because the truth is I am already living it. All things that keep me focused on the present moment and the activities that fuel my soul, and that can effect the future vision, but my happiness doesn't rely on the future that I cannot control, it relies on what is happening now. So my council to you is to develop your vision from that point of view.
I also encourage you to not stop at the vision. Understand that the "vision" is just the high level bird's eye view of the best life you can live. Which is why I am not a huge vision board fan. Creating a vision board and looking at it every day can be a motivator, but it is not a manifestor, despite popular belief. I love starting with a collage or a creative vision plan painting because that gets me out of my left brain and opens the possibilities to creative ideas that otherwise would not happen without a creative practice. But the next step of understanding what is needed to bring the vision into form is crucial, and if you find that the actions you need to take to meet the vision are not in alignment with your heart and soul desires, then you may want to re-evaluate the vision. Because if you are not happy an in your joy doing the actions or reaching out for support, then again, what does the vision really mean? And where is it coming from? Has the vision been born from your soul? If so, than bringing it into form should be an extremely ecstatic experience on a nearly daily basis. And remember it is OK to change the vision, it is YOUR vision after all.
Also, I highly encourage you to look at your vision and your actions each month and check in to see if you are happy with where your life force energy is going and if that is where you want it to be going, and if not, adjust. And twice a year at the spring and fall Equinoxes I go through a whole Sacred Garden practice to see what seeds I have planted, what needs to be nourished, what needs to be let go, what needs to stay under the soil for a while..incubating, and what I have brought into blossom and can celebrate. These are very important to my cyclical process, and why I am not overwhelmed, feeling behind, or stressed at the end of year. Because I planted the seeds for December through February last spring and fall, and in some cases even back in 2017. Some things take time and patience and nourishment to cultivate and bring into form. Relax, not everything needs to be done right now or even this year. Just enjoy the journey.
I have a few gatherings in January for my local peeps to begin to live cyclically and relax into your life.
Year Beginning Illumination Circle - Where we get clarity on our heart and soul desires and create our mantra for the year from which the vision is seeded.
AND, I am super excited that my teacher Whitney Freya is coming and we will create our Sacred Symbol for 2019. There are only two spots left.
For those of you not local or who prefer to work virtually, I have an FB group which I will be nourishing in 2019 and I am formulating how I will support you. It will likely be offerings like these via zoom, and a co-working circle. It is for women who work in the healing/creative and spiritual arts. I would love if you joined us. https://www.facebook.com/groups/shealersjourney/
For those of you who want to dive deeper into Trust in yourself and your inner wisdom, listening to it, and acting from it. My 6 month journey begins January 29th. The full invitation can be found at She Trusts.
Lots of other goodies coming in 2019, most particularly exclusive content for those of you in my community who have supported me through my journey and vision. And more one on one virtual accessibility including creative practice, visioning, Super Soul Flow ® Sessions and so much more.
I truly honor and love each of you. As always I am available to connect and answer questions if you want to dive deeper on anything I muse on.
I just returned from Mexico on a much needed recharge trip. Now as Christmas approaches I am sitting in deep gratitude for my family and all of you who have supported me over this last year. You are truly a gift and I honor you. I hope this holiday season finds you relaxed and surrounded by love. As I have been reflecting on my journey this year and feel into the path for next year I am struck by my deep desire to cultivate and nourish what I have already grown instead of come up with all new "things" for 2019, or at least for the next 3 moon cycles. That is highly unusual for me as I am usually bombarded with new creative ideas that I want to immediately put out into the world (it doesn't mean I am not getting the ideas, but I am taking my time and discerning what wants to happen and what doesn't). But if there is anything I have learned in this last year, it is to slow down, and simplify, and truly work within my rhythms and listen to my wisdom on things like this. New ideas take a lot of energy, often away from what has already been built. And 2019 for me is going to be all about making what I have already done even more potent, creating exclusive content for those of you who have supported me, and making more of what I have done in -person available online.
Of course, for me December 31st does not represent a hard stop on anything, it just represents a day to celebrate what is complete, and continue in the cycles and rhythms that I already work within, instead of calendar year planning. So a lot of what I have already begun will just flow into the next 3 moon cycle. Working this way for me is so much more fluid and freeing, I invite you to try it, and not be so worried about ALL of 2019. This also allows me to remain open to the mystery and the possibilities. I have been reading a book that is more "mainstream" called the 12 Week Year and while it is a bit more "corporate" and masculine in its language, underneath the surface he is really saying the same thing, that working in cycles like this can be very effective and more natural way of accomplishing your heart and soul desires. So for me the next 12 weeks (or 3 moons in my language) will be about getting really intentional and creating more potent, practice oriented content from much of what I have already created in bits and pieces, and to finish some paintings. I came to realization that I started a lot of art in 2018, I finished very little of it....the nature of my muse at work. But I feel the need for a sense of completion.
I invite you to ponder just the next 12 weeks, and relax into it, as opposed to trying to figure out the whole year, and let me know what you would like to cause and create over the next 3 moons.
I would also love to hear from you what you would like to see from me in terms of offerings, classes, art mediums, women's circles, both in-person and online. I really would like your feedback, because what I THINK really doesn't matter when it comes to my planning classes. I can pay attention and intuit what people are going through and offer something to support that, but I would much rather you tell me, and I can feel, create, and respond to that.
Lastly, I have a gift for you. Some of you may already have gone through this process with me, but for those who haven't, I would invite you to dive into my 10 video series on Discovering and Claiming Your Gifts. This is a wonderful segue into your vision planning, because when you are clear on your Divinely given gifts, your visions and dreams become more aligned and utilizing those gifts to achieve your vision is a much more fluid way of working, as opposed to creating Visions that are not aligned with your gifts, or at the very least brings you clarity around what support you may need to make your dreams a reality.
I hope you enjoy!
Here is the supply list for the project, Discover Your Gifts Supply List
And here is the link to the 10 video series,
Love and Light,
As I have mentioned I am in the "internal" time, I have been since November's Full Moon to some degree, but really in earnest since Sunday after my last workshop for the year. And I am not going to lie, it is not easy just being instead of doing. Every part of me wants to do more, plan for next year, create goals and tasks, or the opposite, do nothing at all...as in ride Facebook in order to avoid what is going on inside. But I know the gold is in the reflection, and because I am in this space and a creative being, all sorts of ideas are coming my way, as is what will happen if you choose to take some time in stillness and reflection between now and January 6th, the next New Moon.
BUT instead of act on the ideas, I have taken some notes, journaled and then released them for the moment rather than immediately create an action plan, because I don't know yet if all those ideas should come into form. That comes later, after I have celebrated my completions, spent some time just being with and embracing what is still in the shadows, doing some release, and then feeling into how I want to show up in 2019 before I go acting on ALL of the things. I have to confer with Inner Wisdom to see where my energy wants to go next year. I have a feeling I know what that is, but that doesn't mean I am not in resistance to not moving like a freight train on all of these shiny, new ideas. But I have to breath, I have to get still, and I have to see what emerges and what really fuels my fire. Because I don't know any one of us that can bring every idea into form, at least not in the short term. And some things aren't meant to be birthed right away. But unless I spend this time in reflection I cannot discern what those are.
Some of you have already done your visioning for 2019, some of you haven't. Either is OK, go at your own pace, no judgement either way, but I can say after years of being an intense visioner and planner without first tapping deep into myself and reflecting, the visions rarely came into form, because I had no real idea what was in my heart and soul desires, and I was a slave to my goals, then beat myself up when I didn't meet them. I won't have my vision fully laid out until Feb 1 or thereabouts, and then I continue to tap into it every season to see what is still in resonance and where I want my energy and focus to go. That doesn't mean I don't have things happening in January and February, but because I don't have a January to December schedule, I have already planted seeds last spring, brought some things into action in summer, took a look again in the fall at what seeds became reality, what seeds I still wanted to nourish, and what I would bring into form in the winter, to have in place, so I COULD relax and be in a reflective time now. It is so fluid. And yet back to all those NEW ideas coming up.
One of the epiphanies I had in my reflection time the other day, is as someone who loves to be both creative and analytic, it is a gift that I honor but can sometimes be a curse. Where I choose to spend my time can be a real dance, because I love it all. Its like having two lovers that you love equally and have to choose whom to spend your time with. I can be just as much in my joy writing a business plan and creating a project plan as I can dancing, writing and painting. It is in MY full magic to be doing both at the same time, painting a business plan is like an orgasmic experience for me. So I plan to do more of that for those who would enjoy it....painting a business plan...not an orgasmic experience. Well not with me, but I hope orgasmic experiences are on your vision board.
I am also going to invite you to go into some quiet and stillness and reflect and journal on these four inquiries, preferably before you do your vision, but remember something else, your Vision does not have to be set in stone for an entire year, it can be fluid, so if something comes up for you in this process, then change the vision, its OK, its your vision, no one else's. I will share these with you and give an example for each.
What are you celebrating for 2018? What did you complete, or put in motion that you would like to celebrate? Honor it, honor you.
I am celebrating opening the studio and building a community, this will always be a work in progress, but it was the culmination of a twenty year vision (some visions are not overnight, or even a year, or even a decade). I am celebrating getting closer with my husband and son, and my son becoming an amazing young man.
I am celebrating my completion of my Path of Self Love Guide training.
What didn't work out so well, and is it time to let it go, or re-commit? NO JUDGEMENT on this, these are often our greatest lessons.
I did not do all of the things to honor my body that I set out to do, there is still some deep inner shadow work, and releasing that is going to continue to happen as I shed some things that no longer serve me. And bring in some things that do, small baby steps.
Co-teaching did not work out well in all situations (in some it worked wonderfully). I am going to be very discerning about this in 2019 and likely create an agreement document for those who want to co-create with me, so that equal energies are being put into the project.
What is still lurking in the shadows of your spirit/psyche that you are resisting or avoiding being with altogether? Be honest here, reach out for support if you need it.
Woo-lot's of these I am looking at here. But the glaring one is my dance between trying to do and be it all, with then saying screw it, I have worked hard enough, and then over-indulge in self-sabotaging habits. It is a deep dive into my shadow and light of my rebel archetype. I smell a painting process for this one.
And lastly, what are your heart strings pulling at and putting into momentum for 2019?
Well again lots here for me, which is why I am really in reflection, but the pull right now is to cultivate and amplify what I have already built rather than create a whole bunch of new stuff. I really want to cultivate and amplify deep love in this community and have some ways I am considering doing that. I plan to amplify the content I already have to make it more powerful and accessible.
I am deepening into my own personal creative journey and doing a lot of art journaling and technique. Mixed media is my first love. And I am igniting my dance practice again. I am also going on a deep spiritual journey in 2019. (well I do that most years, its a daily practice, but this is really, really deep)
There will be some behind the scenes things happening that could be a long process that I plan on being gentle with and not rushing.
So that is a peek into my process, it will continue to emerge and evolve over the next several weeks. I really hope you take the time to reflect on these and journal on them and see what emerges for you. Please reach out of you need me, or if you need reflection. I would love to hear what you come up with when you do these inquiries. Happy Holidays, Dina
Last week, I talked a little bit about not forgetting the rest of your life, outside of your work in your visioning for the next cycle and the importance of calling in the support you need to bring your visions into form, and live from your heart and soul desires. I mentioned I would discuss next the different types of support, discernment and questions to ask, so I made two videos for you, since I ended up with a lot to say. No surprise there. It was actually supposed to be one video, but everything crashed part way through, and thankfully the first video wasn't lost. Everything was in flow, including my daily alarm reminding me to check in with my Inner Wisdom going off, and me forgetting to shut off my email notifications. I do hope you enjoy these.
...and then my mac said...woah...too much... and so here is video #2
Of course, I thought of a million other things to offer, after I was complete. I may talk support for business plans and budgeting to get into the details of what it takes to bring your vision into form, and some free and low cost support you can get in that realm next week. In the videos, and I will say it again here, if you would like to reach out to me for witnessing, and to bring clarity to the questions you may want to ask a specific support person when you are interviewing or in a discovery process with them, I am here for you. I also know and can connecting you to magic makers in almost every realm. I say it in the video, and I will say it again, open up to receiving support, look in your own backyard, instead of a shiny object offering you see from a stranger on social media. Remember the saying of working with people you know, love, and trust. You never know what skills someone already in your circle may have, because so many do not shine and illuminate all of their gifts. But that is a whole other conversation.
Enjoy, Happy Holidays!
Love and Light,
I know many of you are spending some time creating your visions for 2019; either on your own, or taking workshops to create your visions. Whether your vision planning takes form in a Vision Board, in your planner or journal, in a piece of art ,or in your head, I wanted to reflect on a few things to give more power and intention to your visions so that you can bring them into form. One of the most important things I want to discuss is to illuminate where you need support to make your vision, dreams, heart and soul desires a reality.
Because we can't do it alone! Nor should we, it is much more powerful to call in support!
First, I wanted to share a few wisdom bytes so that your Vision Board doesn't become just a pretty collage that collects dust, and then some thoughts on calling in the support you need. I have so much to share on the subject that I am considering doing a video on it early next week, because there is more I would like to share than you probably have the patience to read in a newsletter. I am also available to provide one on one support to guide you towards creating a vision that you can actually bring into form, way beyond a board or a list of written goals, as well as, guide you towards a clear idea of what areas of support will get you the biggest bang for your buck in order to achieve your visions, but more on that later.
Consider these things when visioning:
We don't just live to work, our sacred work includes but is not limited to what we get paid to do. Include your home, health-spiritual, emotional, and physical needs, relationships, creative expression, and making sure you do things that bring you joy. In many ways these are all intertwined but if we don't include the rest of our lives and honoring all of our needs in our visions we end up over-working, over-giving, and exhausted.
If you are looking at all aspects of your life then more than 1 or 2 goals for each will also become overwhelming, be gentle with yourself.
Remember that life and business work in cycles, not hard stops on December 31st and brand new starts with a whole new set of goals begins on January 1st. That is external world, calendar driven madness matrix thinking, not Feminine Wisdom fluidity and flow thinking, remember fluidity + focus=flow. Look at those things you did complete (or are complete with energetically) and celebrate it. Look at what will continue into the following cycle (not all goals take a year, some less, some more) and how much energy those will take before adding a list of new stuff. Be reasonable and realistic.
Particularly for business, look at what type of cycle you are in or want to be in. Are you in a growth and expansion mode, or a preserve and maintain mode? Not every year has to be a year where you do a whole bunch of new stuff, it might be more wise to give love and attention to what you have already built. If we are in constant expansion mode, or creating a lot of new things each year, that can lead to burn out, and is not sustainable. An example, is you may choose to focus on really loving on your existing customers, repeatable business and programs, and perhaps offer something special and unique for them. As opposed to chasing new business, creating and deploying huge new programs, networking like crazy to find the ideal clients. Look at the amount of energy you have and what fuels your heart and soul desires.
Look at your energy, your rhythms and your patterns from year to year, honor them, and know what keeps you in your joy. Create goals that bring you joy and abundance on the journey, not just when you get to a perceived destination.
Do not be a slave to a to-do list and goals. Create them, set powerful intention, and then release control over outcomes. For the love of Pete, do not use them as a way to beat yourself up when you don't get to it all. I am pretty certain I will die with a to-do list, and the sun will still rise the next day.
Use your language carefully, really feel into and resonate with the words you use. Try not create goals that make you feel like crap. Ex: I must lose 10 lbs by the summer. As opposed to: I nourish and love my body with healthy food, and physical activity that brings my joy. Now doesn't that feel better? And more attainable?
Those are just a few of the ways I work with my visions, and what I lead my beloveds through when guiding them towards there vision. Now let's discuss support. Repeat after me:
I deserve support, I am open to receiving support, I have support. And so it is.
Sometimes saying these words out loud each and every morning is a magical mantra and the support you need often just appears. Sometimes we don't even know what we need and someone shows up and reflects it for us and offers us a gift. But you have to be open to receiving it, so start there. I am also going to ask you to get a little left brained for a moment. After you create your vision and goals, make a list of all the types of support you would like to manifest in order to achieve the goals. Don't worry about financial resources....yet (yes unfortunately we do have look at that too) but there are many areas of support and ways to call in what you need that don't often cost anything in dollars, perhaps time and energy, but you can look at that later too. Just start by listing out every way in which you could use some support...in all areas of life. Free write, take a deep breath and tap into your wisdom and your heart and write what you need. Do not forget relationships. I have found particularly as a woman in business that there were times I did not have complete support from my sacred partner, and those times were a struggle. Have a conversation with your partner if you have one, and make sure you are in it together. It makes success so much easier to achieve, and again ask for what you need, and sometimes it is a tough discussion if your partner considers your work a hobby (I have been there too) just because it is taking some time to make some revenue.
Once you have your list, then you can begin looking at the cost of getting that support in time,energy and financial resources, and prioritize what is important for you. Always reminding yourself that you deserve it and we can't do it alone. Understand what your time and energy is worth, and then of course look at your budget. Understand all the aspects of your business, and where you have the gifts and skills for the task and where you don't, or where you just don't want to spend your time and energy. You are going to have to be brutally honest with yourself on this, and then decide if you would prefer to spend your resources learning how to do something yourself, or if it costs less to hire support. I am going to tell you a little personal story to explain what I mean, because there are hundreds of ways to find support and resources, which again I may do a video on. One quick example is, maybe you want accountability. I know a lot of women who hire very expensive coaches in order to be held accountable to their goals. However, you may be able to find an accountability partner in a networking group or an FB group that has like-minded, like-business members. Just ask for a partner publically and I am sure one will appear, lots of women are looking for accountability sisters.
Another example of support can be hiring household support so you can be in your vision. I will say it again, you deserve it!
In my own journey one of the first support people I hired was a social media manager, even before I made a dime, but it was budgeted for in my start up year business plan (yes it would help if you had a business plan and a budget of some kind) and is in the budget for every subsequent year. The reason why is not because I can't do my own social media, nor do I have any external perceived resistance or block around it (so many people love to say we have a "block" just because there is something we don't care to do..or want to spend our energy doing) but because I don't want to put my time and energy there, My time and energy is better spent creating the curriculum, creating the programs, and actually doing the teaching and painting, that is where my heart and soul desires lie, and my social media manager specializes in her work, as I specialize in mine. She is worth her weight in gold, because I don't get sucked into the SM vortex. When I think about how much valuable time I would be spending away from my own magic if I was scheduling and creating posts, finding graphics..ugh. She is a Goddess, and I am supporting another woman in business.
I tell this particular story because so very often I work with one on one beloveds who are unwilling or think they don't deserve to spend a few hundred dollars or less a month on a support person in an area they don't want to spend their energy on but will spend thousands (often on a credit card) either A. hiring a coach to remove some perceived blockage or resistance around why they aren't doing said task, or B. spend thousands of dollars or hours trying to learn to do something that is not in their heart and soul desires(like building a website for example). And in the end, the task at hand is still not getting done (or not in a timely manner..whereas a professional could get it done quickly) or it is getting done but at the expense of not doing the sacred work that is in her joy and the whole reason she is in business in the first place.
Please know that I am writing this for you as a starting point to reflect on what you need, become aware that you deserve support, and it can come in many forms. I am fully aware many women start businesses with zero operating capital. I have done it several times myself. But what I am asking you to do is know what you need, and what the priorities are and how to discern when the right time is to bring in the help. I have seen many women become successful and still do it all, and start to burn out, despite the fact that they do have the resources to begin hiring support, and for many reasons don't do it. But I can say without doubt in business and in life at a certain point in order to grow we have to take some risk, and begin to release some control. And most importantly live in our joy, share our magic and our gifts, and allow other people to shine in their gifts, because that is what it is all about in the end, isn't it? You didn't go into business to do a whole bunch of things you don't enjoy doing. If that were true many of us would have stayed in our safe, secure and often more lucrative corporate jobs...lol. But we know we are here on the planet to live out an assignment, so let's live it!
I will likely be writing a part 2 on this, or as I said doing the video around hiring coaches, discerning what you need, and what questions to ask yourself, and the person you are considering hiring. Coaches can be a huge support to us, but again, we have to know what we desire to be supported in, and often there is not "one person" that can fulfill it all. Or we may really need a strategist, consultant, or teacher, so it is important to know the difference between various support professionals.
I hope you received some illumination and value in this article. As always, I am available for support if anything comes up for you, or if you would like some reflection and guidance on creating your vision and bringing it into form. I always offer a complementary 30 minute discovery video call to go deeper on the things I share in my articles. Just email me firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like to get on my calendar.
Amused Woman Studios has been open since November 4th 2017, the physical space where I teach Intentional Creativity and Women’s Transformational Workshops. I never really thought to announce the re-branding when I opened, but I am making it “official” now. Because well to be honest Facebook is requiring I announce the re-branding in order to get my business name changed. And you will also see some changes to the website over the next few months in order to bring more coherency to the site, and easier navigation.
Amused Woman Studios LLC has actually been my legal business name since July 2017.
But I wanted to officially announce that Dina Tibbs Healing and Creative Journeys is now officially known everywhere as Amused Woman Studios. And hopefully the Facebook page name will reflect this change very soon.
I am also working with my web Goddess to create version 3.0 of the website. That will blend the one on one work I do both in person and virtually, with the in-studio classes and workshops, so there is a cleaner look and feel to the site, and easier navigation. Plus I am ready to tell a new story after being on this journey of creating a community here in Centennial, CO for a year now. And I am writing the Amused Woman Manifesta, because I am an aMUSEd woman and you can be too.
We appreciate you following us on this journey to a name that better reflects what we do and who we cater to.
Love and Light,
A few weeks ago I stood in front of a room of about 40 young mothers, and some grandmothers and asked.
"How many of you consider yourselves creative?"
I think maybe 3 women raised their hands. Then I asked,
"How many of you created a life?"
And of course all the hands were raised. I guess it still blows my mind that women can create a life but still not consider themselves creative. Creating a life is the Big Kahuna of creative acts, but really everything we do, whether we create a life or not is a sacred creative act, if we treat it as such. If you are still not convinced you are creative, or say things like "I don't have a creative bone in my body." Then read on, I have an assignment for you. And also feel free to read my past article on my story of intentionally making everything I do a creative act (or at least I try to.)
But sometimes even I forget that small, mundane actions can be creative, and even some more large projects that I forget are creative acts. Sometimes it is the things that come naturally to me that I forget are creative, and my mind likes to tell me, if I am not stretching myself out of my creative comfort zone then I am not creating. And when I don't do the things that involve paint or sketching than I feel like something is missing. Because when I do those things they are a stretch for me and sometimes make me feel uncomfortable, I feel more connected to my spirit believe it or not, I feel more able to get out of my head and my own way, then when I do something that comes easily to me. But the truth is, when I remember that everything I do is a creative act, if I do it with that intention, with love, with connection, and treat it as sacred. That includes washing the dishes, which happens to be one of my favorite times of day to connect with my Inner Wisdom.
Last week was a short week for me, and then we left on Wednesday to go see family, and just got home last night.By last night I was finding myself irritable and cranky because I hadn't "created" in a week, not to mention my daily morning Divine connection practice was non-existent. But the reality is, just because I didn't put paint on a canvas, I did a lot of creating. I completed several writing projects, updated my website (which I consider sacred technology),created a few dishes for Thanksgiving, and created connections with those I love.These are all things that come very naturally to me, as opposed to painting and drawing, so I forget how creative I am actually being when I am writing, or cooking, or creating sacred space. But I had to remind myself that creating does not always involve making what we consider art, and spiritual practice doesn't always have to be difficult or uncomfortable. The thing is, I didn't do those things with setting an INTENT of creating, consider it a sacred act and so my spirit started rebelling. But when we do shift our perspective and our intent towards considering every act a sacred creative act, we come more into alignment with our true nature and what lies beneath the surface, than when we are just checking things off a to-do list.
So my assignment to you is two-fold, here is a list of acts I consider creative that are a part of my daily life; I would like you to add your own to it. Then, I would like you to do those acts with an intention that you are creating, and that these acts no matter how big or small are sacred. At the end of each day I would like you to journal, by starting with the sentence:
Today I intentionally created.....
And then sit in gratitude for all that you can and have created. And also know this. Resting is doing something.
For me the list of creative acts includes but is not limited to:
Painting and art journaling, collage
Writing in all its forms, including my curriculum, web and social media content
Connecting with beloveds
Creating sacred space and ritual for both my daily Divine and Inner Wisdom connection practice, and when I teach, and even when I do dishes and clean
Cooking a meal with love and intention
Listening to good music and dancing
Creating a physical movement practice
Creating a loving home and space for my son to grow into who he is
Creating a vision, strategy and plan for my business which is cyclical not a one time thing
Creating a connection to nature and the elements
I am sure the list is even longer, but these are my main creative acts that I do almost daily. I would love to hear what you do that you consider creative acts. And besides journaling on and acknowledging the ones you do, for an extra challenge, I invite you to try something new that you have never done before.
I would like to take a moment to congratulate you on your completion of:
Yes you heard me, in this moment I want you to stop and take a moment to celebrate the fact that you are complete! You are whole, you are enough. You have done and learned enough to share your gifts with the world. Now is the time and the world needs what you have:
YOU! ALL OF YOU!
Everything you learn and do to grow and transform from this point forward is not to become more complete, more knowledgeable, more anything. From this point forward you are elevating and illuminating what is already there, what has always been there. And I want you to celebrate it.
In the wisdom teaching world we often talk about releasing what is no longer serving you (or maybe never has) and that is a worthy endeavor because it makes room for the new, for the magic, for listening to and discerning your inner wisdom from your inner critic. But what we don't often do is celebrate completions, and the fact that we are complete right now, in the moment. For those of us who love to always be learning, always be growing, be in spiritual practice and community it is difficult to acknowledge that we have already arrived, everything else is a cherry on top.
That is the big picture sense of completion, but I also invite you to take a look at your year and celebrate those things you have completed that were a part of your vision. So often, we complete and achieve and don't take a moment to celebrate all that we have done, sometimes the simplest thing of getting out of bed in the morning and showing up to our lives deserves a celebration.
The muse loves celebrations!
And when we stop to celebrate the Muse is happy, and when she is happy and acknowledged she gifts you with all sorts of creative ideas and possibilities. And these ideas and possibilities are what projects us into the next cycle of being. So what are you celebrating?
This idea of completion has been with me for a few weeks. Ever since my mentor asked me if I felt complete in what I needed to learn and train in so that I can serve my beloveds. And my answer was yes. I have learned enough to be of service to myself and others. Just saying those words out loud created a huge shift and sense of being enough. Does that mean I have nothing left to learn? Of course not, and I sit in humility for all that I have been blessed to learn and all those who I have learned from until now. What is does mean, is I am enough, and I am worthy, I have enough certificates and trainings, and everything else I do from this point forward t is to elevate and illuminate my consciousness, elevate my sacred work, and to be in deeper connection with those whom I meet on this journey. Just showing up as I am in the moment, just being, which is COMPLETE and WHOLE. As are you.
So for this week of Thanksgiving in the US, I invite you to give thanks to YOU. I invite you to contemplate your completion, and those things you are complete with, and to celebrate it. I invite you to explore how you can move from "doing" to connecting, and in what ways you can connect more deeply to yourself, the Divine, to your beloveds, to your community. And if you are so inclined to share ideas and actions you plan to take to be more connected, I would love to hear them.
Last week I said I was preparing to go behind the veils, and so it is. I had no choice but to do just that as I was in bed sick all week. I saw it as a blessing, the Universe jumpstarted my wish to go internal, by forcing me to. It does mean I had to move and dance with some things in my schedule, but it gave me a real opportunity to first; be fully in my body, second to rest, because apparently I needed it, and last to quiet the OTHER voice in my head that keeps telling me:
You can't go internal for two months, what if you miss something?
FOMO- Fear of Missing Out. I believe that is one of the biggest reasons as women we put ourselves into overwhelm, especially during the holidays. We are afraid to say no, what if we miss something? What if we don't make our revenue numbers, what if we don't make ours goals for this year,what if all of the connections I spent all year making forget about me, What if my friends or family get upset with me? What if, What if, What if?
What if you spent your time in joy and harmony with yourself, and with others only if it makes your heart sing?
What if spending time in stillness and quiet allowed you to unleash your sparkle and really listen to what you and your beloveds desire so that next year you make even more magic?
Each morning I have a practice I do before I get out of bed and those of you who have worked with me or been in class with me have learned it, I received this wisdom from my teacher Christine Arylo. I invite you all to try it for 40 days and see if it shifts things. When you do this before you are fully awake, you are able to more readily hear what your heart and spirit has to say. So take a deep breath, a stretch, and put one hand on your heart, and one on your belly and ask the following:
How much energy do I have to give today? Intuit a number between 1-100. Anything lower than 75 means you should really limit the amount of external energy output. Under 50 means, seriously, don't give much energy, under 40 means danger zone, you don't have it to give, and shit will fall apart unless you nourish yourself.
What do I need to receive today? See above...this is what you need to receive in order to feel nourished. Make sure whatever you need, you get either from yourself or your support structures.
What do I need to hear today? Pay attention, these are the words you need to hear from YOU
What do I need to know today? These are the signs and symbols to slow down and pay attention to, they often inform your path.
So, this week as I have done my practice and have danced with what my mind and ego are saying vs. what my heart and spirit are saying I desire to do; which is to go behind the veils, complete things including a whole bunch of paintings, simplify and organize my closet and the studio, be fully creative in putting what I have visioned for next year into form, and creating some foundational things like the next version of my website and my local presence; here is what my spirit keeps saying I need to hear:
Slow down, you aren't missing anything, in fact the slower your become the more magic will present itself to you. The more connections you will make.
And so it is. So I continue to invite you to slow down. I know I sound like a broken record, but seriously if you don't slow down and pay attention, even for a few minutes each day, YOU WILL MISS THE MAGIC! You will miss the subtle messages from you soul that will guide and direct you towards the path of your dreams and desires. Toward joy, love and connection, and isn't that what we all are here for and what we really want?
I also invite you to begin contemplating on some words around how you want to feel next year. Beyond the goals, and to-do lists, how do you want to feel? I usually have three words or a phrase that forms my power mantra for each year. This year the word that has come so far is:
Numinous-"arousing spiritual emotion; mysterious or awe-inspiring"
I would love to hear a word or two that intuitively comes that you can really FEEL in your body, and how you want to walk through the world in 2019.
Love and Light,
PS I am excited and proud to announce that I made the Spirit Woman Top 12 List for the Fall- If you click on the image you will be introduced to the other 11 amazingly spirited women that made the list. The list will be available on November 13th.
I hope you enjoyed Halloween/Samhain if you celebrated and took a moment to honor your ancestors. Now the wheel turns, the harvest has been brought in and it is time for nature to go dormant and fallow in order to REST and prepare for re-emergence in the spring. Sometimes seeds and bulbs are planted now because they need the darkness and the FREEZE in order to germinate. This is my favorite time of year!
So what does that mean for us human beings? Same thing, if we honor our lives as cycles in harmony with nature. It is time to pause, reflect, and nourish ourselves, and yet our society actually throws us into consumerism madness during this time of year, saying yes to everything and going into overwhelm. But our spirits were not made for this, although I do have to say I am SUPER-EXCITED about Hallmark Christmas movies. But that is because of the idea of curling up in a blanket, with cocoa and a fire, and taking a pause.
So I am going behind the veil from Mid-Nov to Mid-Jan!
Does that mean I won't be working at all? No but what it does mean is that I will be working less and those things I am doing are in support of all of you to take time to celebrate what we have done and to reflect on our dreams and desires leading into next year. I am able to do this with fluidity because I don't work with the idea that there is a hard stop and all goals need to be met by December 31st, and then create a whole new set of goals on January 1st. No wonder we feel overwhelmed. Those of you that have worked with me know that I look at each season and cycle to see what can be let go of, and what continues forward into the next cycle. What I want to put my energy and intention into and what has already been seeded. Visioning in January actually puts us into an immediate feeling of stress and overwhelm, but when you continually look at your vision throughout the year, you already know what you are putting into place from January through March, because you planted those seeds last spring and you have been nourishing and caring for them all summer and now harvesting in Autumn, and bringing forth into the next year what was already visioned. So taking this time at least for me at this point in the year is not only necessary for my sanity, but for my spirit. It also means I can reflect on what support I need in my work, spiritual, and home life. It gives me time to create the curriculum and details for what I have visioned, so I can create art that feeds my soul and gives me the creative ideas I need to offer you all my medicine.
So I am inviting you, if you have not already done so, to look at your visions for your life, work, and relationships, celebrate, and reflect on what will be carried forward, and take action NOW to bring things into form for January through March. Look at what support structures you need to have in place to be in flow and fluidity. And then take a pause! Go behind the veils, to replenish yourself. It may not be for two full months, because it does take a year of working the way I do to begin to be in this type of cycle where you can do that. But promise me, you will take some time during the darkness to go internal and really listen to what you need to receive, what your heart and soul desires are, so that you are only doing things that support your dreams and desires.
As for what work I am doing in the next two months to support my beloveds, I have one class specifically for Wellness Practitioners, I have a Solstice Celebration in partnership with Crystal Blue an amazing Sounder Healer will be here using the gongs, drums, and bowls, to drop us into the reflective state and bring us all into alignment. I will have my regular art journaling days, and then re-emerge in January with a circle that will helps us Illuminate and clarify our intents and heart and soul desires. I also continue my one on one work with any of you who would like support in Weaving your Vision, accessing your creativity, and learn to live in this way of honoring the cycles.
To learn what I have happening feel free to visit the calendar https://www.dinatibbs.com/calendar
A few weeks ago I met a woman who is an amazing attorney who works diligently for her clients, is compassionate, gives them her all, works so very hard to support her peeps. And has a few kiddos, that she spends her time with when she is not working. And yet, she is exhausted, she knows this, but puts her self-nourishment last on the list. She said something to me that has stayed with me ever since.
"I work so hard, doing Inner Work is just more work."
So of course I have been sitting with that ever since and wondered how many women (and humans in general) feel that way. Inner Work is a term used by many of us in the healing and spiritual arts, and yet I am not sure it is resonating with me any more. I think I would rather use Inner Play or Inner Journey, Inner Curiosity or the Grand Experiment. It doesn't always have to be "work" and what comes up for us around that word, but it is a practice for sure. And one that if you desire to transform parts of your story, and be living your heart and soul desires, just can't be avoided. We have to do the practices that allow us to access who we truly are and not all of the external "work". Or you don't, that is certainly up to you.
I find great joy in understanding myself more deeply, even when I am working through some tough stuff, but that is because I am a deeply curious person, and being curious for me is fun and joyful. At the same time, this week, I was in that place of...OK I am totally done with working past stuff, at least for the moment. YEs, I have scars that have healed over and will always be tender, but at least for right now I would prefer to work from possibility and fun and joy. Which is a big reason why I use art to access my Inner Muse. Art for me is fun, dance and movement is fun, being goofy and dressing up is fun.
And what better week to let go of our adult selves than Halloween week. We have full permission to get in costumes and be totally goofy. I love Halloween, and I actually celebrate it as Samhain which is a High Holy Day in the wheel of the year, and a time for both irreverence and merry making, as well as, honoring our ancestors. Not in a sad way but in a joyous celebration of communicating with and celebrating them. In certain traditions it is believed that the veils between the worlds are thin right now and it is the time to communicate with and ask for guidance from our ancestors. You may even find yourself dreaming about them this week. We can also build fun little altars dedicated to them with items that remind us of them.
So I invite you this week to do a few things, one is to ask if you are resisting doing self-care, and self-nourishing practices because it just seems like more work, and more things on your to-do list, and ask how you can make that fun and joyous. And if you need ideas I am here for you.
Two, run right out and get yourself a Halloween costume that allows your Inner Child to come out and play, even if you have no plans, put your costume on and go about your day in it on the 31st.
Choose one ancestor who was maybe wild, wacky, irreverent, funny, free-spirited and create a little offering altar to that person, put things on it that were their "hallmarks", maybe she always wore cat glasses, or was known for wearing red socks, or I am reminded of my great-grandmother who always had tissues in her bra in case she needed quick access to one. If you don't have a personal ancestor who was like that, perhaps choose a famous person who has passed that represents that for you. For me it would likely be Lucille Ball. Light a candle for that person, ask him or her to guide you to creating more joy and play in your life.
I do hope you enjoy your week and I would love to hear from you on ideas of bringing more joy and play into your life.
I would be lying if I said this week wasn't challenging, and it was supposed to be a spacious week. I don't know the planetary alignment right now, but wow.It's par for the course when you are doing inner work the Universe immediately presents you with a challenge, so you can actually embody the work (or try to) rather than just read about it and by being presented with the challenges you get to see where the shadows are lurking, and surrender. As several of the teachers in my lineage say.
Life is the Initiation
So this week the work is to explore how I both give and receive warmth, nurturance, and unconditional love. Easy peasy right? Yes, when every thing is going well, sure. And even for me, as I dive into this I know that asking for help, receiving it when freely given, and allowing myself to be nurtured by others is a challenge. And receiving love means from self, the Mother and Father with the capital M&F- the Divine, and others. I also was asked to look at how much I over-give and how I can surrender and simplify.
The giving part can be a challenge because I am a huge giver, a generous soul, but my energy is not always that of the warm, nurturing mother, it is more the challenger, the loving truth teller, which definitely has its shadow side. So my work is to bring in more of the warmth...and I may have failed thus far. I still have two days this week after all. In fact, in doing this work my shadow challenger side came out to play as did a few Inner Mean Girls. Its all good, because I get to witness this, give myself love, surrender, and be called to call in exactly what I am trying to bring in more of.
So this week brought a student who dropped from a class because she did not resonate with me, after no-showing twice rather than telling me something was not in alignment. IT HURT. So my shadow side challenger came out to play and rather than just send her off with warmth and love like what I had been working on all week. The moment I got wounded I sent her off with love but not until I called her out on disrespecting my time. This situation brought several Inner Mean Girls out to play. First, the why? My mind wanted to know what I did, why things weren't in resonance, what could I have done better, what more could I have given? I NEEDED TO KNOW, until I didn't need to, because I just had to surrender to it, no matter what I did, I would not have been in resonance, not all the people are my people, it's OK . Then another Inner Mean Girl came out to beat me up for responding not in a loving, warm way, the thing I had been working all week on doing. And then I beat myself up for over-giving to this person to begin with rather than following my Inner Wisdom because I knew something was out of resonance from the beginning. And then there were a bunch of other situations this week, where people disrespected my time, asked me to drop everything to take care of something because they were doing last minute tasks, or people moving appointments on me last minute. I was being called out by the Divine on ALL THE THINGS that fire me up. So what does this have to do with receiving? It means I had to stop the mind madness and allow myself to receive my own love, and then love from others.
So I stopped, I breathed, I moved, I stood up and gave myself a hug and said sweetie, it's OK, you are enough, your presence is the gift and if someone else doesn't see that it is their story, not yours. You are pure love. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. What do you need to nurture yourself in this moment? So I sat down and began a practice called Sat Kriya, and then I made a collage. Just receive, receive, receive.
And so I came back into love, I reset my intent to bring as much warmth and nurturance to myself, but also to you, and yes to the people who triggered me this week. And I opened up to receiving all of those things back into my heart from others and from the Divine. There is an absolute truth that in order to receive love from others we have to receive it from ourselves first, and that I am sovereign in my ability to source love from within, I still need as do most humans love and belonging from others. And when I woke up this morning, I had some beautifully written reviews about my sacred work that moved me to such a place of gratitude that my heart opened more and more.
So I ask you this week, what do you need to open up to receiving love from yourself, the Divine and others. What situations challenge that, but in the challenges, the walls come down even more? How can I hold you in nurturance and warmth. How can we give and receive for each other? Because that is really what it's all about isn't it?
And do you trust her?
The grandmother of my Intentional Creativity® lineage Sue Hoya-Sellars always asked the question "who lives in here?" And Shiloh carried on that question, and so do the teachers in the Guild. Because that is the quintessential question, who lives in here? Do you know? Do you trust yourself, and trust in a co-creative relationship with the Divine which is both in and out of you, it lives in every thing, every where, all the time for all time. Do you know what your assignment is?
I have said this before, I listen, I feel, I respond. A few things I heard this week, one of which broke my heart wide open. I heard that many women do not sleep at night because they are dreading their days, in essence dreading their lives. I know that is not all of us, but it is more than I thought. I also heard in response to my letter last week, that there are time stuffers, but then there are those sitting in the opposite space, not doing anything except maybe bingewatching Netflix, not acting upon their sacred assignments, depressed, lost. All of these things have the same root, fear instead of love, fear of visibility, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of just being, there is inertia, confusion, or the opposite, busyness and over-giving and doing. Again same root cause, different Inner Mean Girl and way of manifesting the fears.
And as I sit with this, all I can think is most of us (not all..but that is a whole other conversation on the state of women around the globe) are :
Yes that is right, we are at choice to make a change, to write a new story, to ask the question, "who lives in here?" And then love her fiercely, all the parts, and trust her with every fiber of your being. No one else is going to make that choice for you. Now I am not saying if you have trauma or tragedy or health issues that you CHOSE them, just the opposite really. But you do have choice to create a new story with what you have been given...which is your essence, your gifts, and your sacred assignment. A few weeks ago I was at a retreat and heard some pretty inspirational stories from women around the world who seemingly have no choice yet they are choosing to happen to life, not let life happen to them. I heard stories of women from Africa who were saved from fates we could not even conceive of, I heard a story of a woman who had her leg amputated and went on to win a silver medal in the Paralympic games, I heard the story of a young woman who was born with severe mental retardation and can now communicate, write books, and tell her story. I was humbled. I am not saying this to throw anyone into judgement, because a wise teacher once told me that no one's pain is better or worse than another's. But we can all be at choice to let the pain define us, or to let our essence, our gifts, and our assignment define us. They also did not do their work alone, they had support from soul sisters, mothers(blood and soul mothers) , healers, the Divine and community.
So as I have spent the last 20 years, but most deeply the last three transcending and transmuting my stories, there are 5 quintessential facets I work with for myself and others and I have a daily practice where I tap in and use these as my compass, so that my life is created from possibilities and from my heart and soul desires.
Knowing my soul essences
Knowing, claiming and sharing my Divinely given gifts
Knowing my sacred assignment and making sure my energy is used to bring it into form
Non-negotiable Self-Love in all aspects-the light, the shadows,the hot messes, all of it
Non-negotiable trust in my Inner Wisdom, Co-Creation with Divine, and the sisterhood and support structures I have created.
The only way to know and live this way and from the possibilities is to make the space to quiet down long enough to learn who lives in here, to LOVE and to TRUST.
So my Inner Wisdom told me to create a program that teaches women how to tap into this wisdom I have been blessed enough to receive from several lineages and my co-creation with the Divine, to tap into their own wisdom, and to have daily practices, that do not require hours on a meditation cushion, but that they can bring into their daily modern lives.These teachings bring you into the deep inner knowing of what you are here for, what your gifts are, and living from your essence, not what the external world thinks you should be, and to trust your wisdom with every fiber of your being. And to do it in a small group so that we are all witnessed, seen, heard, and feel a sense of sisterhood and belonging. It is called She Trusts and begins in January. I would love for you to join me and 11 other women.
For those of you who are not in Colorado I also do this work virtually and have a one on one program called Vision Weaver that I only take 3 women through from Winter to Summer Solstice. That program also includes bringing your life and work visions into form so you can share your gifts with the world.
If this calls to you, I invite you to dive deeper into the details, and if its in resonance I invite you to a complementary 30 minute call with me to discuss your desires.,
If none of these speak to you, there are so many one day classes that I am musing on and the Jan-March calendar will be hopefully complete by next week. Before the end of the year, there may be one more class on the cycles of motherhood, and there will be a Winter Solstice sound healing evening with Crystal Blue on December 8th, and then I go into reflection time through the end of the year. But I can say we will be creating sacred symbols for 2019 with guest teacher Whitney Freya, there will be 2019 visioning paintings, sacred assignment, a process called Insight, circles on Self-Love and Heart Art and lots of goodies coming.
Love and Light,
PS and as always, I am hear to witness and listen, and hold space for you. Just reach out email@example.com
I am guilty of being a time and space stuffer. What that means is I try to fill every waking hour with things to do when I am in resistance and avoidance to just being with myself and listening. Even though I usually stuff the time with good things, journaling, painting, movement, taking amazing classes both artistic and spiritual, connecting with others and these all get me "out of my head" sometimes we have to stop and quiet down and be with exactly what is in our heads. It is called meta-cognition, thinking about thinking. Or in some spiritual traditions its called contemplation as opposed to meditation. Where we contemplate and witness what our thoughts are rather than trying to "clear them out'. And I will admit sometimes witnessing what we are thinking, or feeling can be scary, because we have been taught certain emotions are BAD. And so we stuff them down and avoid them, rather than be with them and transmute them into something healing; we ignore them because we fear that our world may be turned upside even if it already is. Our minds are afraid of change more than they are afraid of the hot mess that we know and love. And so we stuff our lives with constantly doing something. But left unchecked and unloved those emotions are under the surface running you. However when we witness and reflect on what we are feeling, and say I love you angry (insert any emotion) sweetheart, that part of you begins to shift and the energy is diffused.
I am writing about it this week because it came up in conversation with one of my beloveds, she mentioned how she fills her time even when she has spaciousness in order to avoid being with herself. And I know we all do it, and I honor her for speaking it out loud. We all talk about how busy (four-letter word) we all are, but are we really? Or do we have to be? I know I filled my schedule for the fall because it is when I am at my energetic best, and because my hubby and son are gone a lot, and with the intent to slow down and go into internal reflection for part of Nov and Dec. and it will take every ounce of self-disipline to not fill that time up. Which for me could mean adding another class to the schedule, reaching out to connect and have one on one meetings, creating curriculum...a whole host of things that my mind tells me needs to get done, or will run the story that if I disappear for 3 weeks the whole world will forget about me. Talk about an Inner Mean Girl stepping into the spotlight.
Busy has become a badge of honor, a measure of self-esteem and success, but it is none of those things, it is avoidance of being with our emotions. I know many of you will disagree with me on this, you are mothers, you work, you have commitments, you have no time for yourself. But is that truth? For those of you with little ones, yes there are some years when finding a moment for you seems monumental, I get it. But I also know I went through a period when my son was older and could do things for himself that I was holding onto to "taking care of and doing everything", which is actually a disservice to both of us, so I stopped. I was doing those things because I wanted to feel needed and wanted, and because I did not want to face that part of me that was looking for external love by not saying no to anything instead of saying yes to a deep love of myself.
I am going to challenge you this week, when you are doing your weekly planning to REALLY look at everything on your list from a place of non-attachment. To look at what is really needed, and what isn't, to look at all the things you are doing for everyone else, and all the things you have inserted into your day in order to avoid being with yourself, and consider simplifying, or maybe even saying no, or at least not right now. Not everything has to be right now, particularly those things others are asking you to do. I would also challenge the mothers of older kids to see if we are time and space stuffing our kids' schedules (which then time and space stuffs ours) so that they too never learn to just be with themselves, and God forbid bored. We call all stand to be a little bored, because that is in and of itself something to go within and look at, why does spending time just being present and breathing have to be boring? We are pretty complex and intriguing beings if we just observe ourselves.
So look at your list, transform some to-do's into to-don'ts and spend some time with yourself and just observe.
I will also add this wisdom bite, and something I have learned to be absolutely true, when you fill every minute of every day you leave no energetic space for the new and exciting possibilities to appear or emerge. I have found that when I create spaciousness all sorts of opportunities and possibilities appear.
I would love to hear some things you have chosen to not do, and how that has created spaciousness and possibility for you.
It has been a rough week for many of us, I want you to know I am holding you all in love and light. I was initially going to write a fiercely loving truth-teller piece. But I realized that will not serve me or you, and that piece actually needs to be longer and perhaps submitted to a more a public venue. So instead, I want to carry on the energy of the equinox and what I discovered during my harvesting and gratitude ritual. I have so much to be in gratitude for and my hopes are if I speak it out loud I can transmute the energy of the other bullshit going on all around us. And I can remind you that in these crazy times, to stop, quiet down and acknowledge those things no matter how big or small you are grateful for.
First, so grateful for my husband who has supported me through the light and the shadows, who has supported my dreams and my vision of holding space for all of you. Without him, it would never have become a reality. And of course, my son. The sweet, funny result of our sacred partnership. And of course the hounds that keep us all laughing and love us unconditionally.
My mom, well I don't have words for this as I sit with the happenings in the world and realize she has been fighting this fight for nearly 50 years and who taught me to speak up, stand up, and rise up. Be compassionate to all humans(and creatures), and to be of service.
To you, so much to you. I am so grateful for you, my friends, my students, clients, women who read my stuff (or don't), my sisters, my tribe who support me, and who give me the opportunity to share the wisdom I have been blessed enough to receive. Because I can't not share it.
My teachers, my Goddess I have been blessed with so many amazing teachers, and I continue to call in those who are here to listen to me, witness me, reflect for me, teach me, help me to harmonize and catalyze. Without them..first I don't know what kind of hot mess I would be, and second without them I would not be able to serve all of you. It is my greatest desire and gift to be a part of these lineages so I can share the wisdom I receive and practice with you.
I am DEEPLY grateful to my Social Media and Web Goddesses, the Universe brought me some amazingly gifted women to support me in this venture.
My Divinely given gifts, my mind that is always open, always curious, always learning more and has the ability to discern what resonates and what doesn't. And of course my spirit and my heart, always walking by my side, letting me know when my mind is becoming too cerebral and reminding me when to quiet down and let my intuition back in the driver's seat.
A huge thank you to the Goddess for providing me the physical and energetic space to create the safe container for women to share and self-express. For giving me the place to have the ability to listen, feel, and respond to what you need and desire. And that is also the intent for this writing, to find out what you need and desire. I would like to think my intuition always knows what you desire, what you are working through based on what I have or am working through, but the truth is, I would rather co-create that with you.
People sometimes laugh that I plan as far ahead as I do, but there are two forces at work...one is the Muse has tons of ideas..so I can plan far ahead as long as I am detached from the outcome, and the second is when you plan in the Wise Woman way you honor the rhythms and cycles of nature and yourself. What that means is I am looking at where my energy will go the rest of the year and into next, so that I can take the time I need to reflect and vision during late November and December; I need this time to step out of the madness matrix and it is so much more fluid, yet structured. My planning has nothing at all to do with my need to control or to know what I am doing....lol. But it does take time on my part and of my Social Media Goddess and Web Goddess to build and share what the Muse create so I honor their time as well and try to give them as much time as possible to work their magic.
So I am planning my first quarter 2019 teaching calendar and I would love your input. I will have some travel planned throughout Jan-Mar as well, which is another reason for my planning. I do already have big news for January and a class you won't want to miss so mark your calendars, the details will be coming soon.
I am pleased to announce that one of my teachers and founder of Creatively Fit Coaching Whitney Freya will be coming to Amused Woman Studios on January 19th and she will guide us through discovering and painting our 2019 Sacred Symbol which we will use as a guide to set our INTENT for the year. And it will be the catalyst event leading into a monthly circle where we create a sacred symbol and intent for each month.
I will also be opening the doors to my She Trusts 6 month programs that was postponed from this month to make some spaciousness for myself and some others that are interested. So more to come on that.
There are some other goodies being planned, but I would love to hear from you. What types of classes and processes would you like to see. What are you visioning for yourself where you could use guidance and an art process to bring your visions into form? What do you need to release in order to step into your power and your heart and soul desires? What struggles, old stories, Inner Mean Girls are you ready to transform and transmute? If you speak it, I can develop it, and hold the space for you.
Would you like to see more art, more sacred circles and teachings, all of the above? I am developing both larger Intentional Creativity classes and smaller art journaling, intuitive painting and mixed media days, and of course lots of fun and play.
I also would love to develop and curate experiences specifically for private groups and team building. Please ask about this if you have a group of sisters, friends, co-workers, beloveds that you think could use some time outside of the madness and to just come enjoy time together in sisterhood and work to transform and re-write a story.
So again, I thank you, I love you, I am grateful for you, and I am here for you in any way I know how to be. And I would love to hear your feedback.
One of my favorites turns of the wheel through the year is the Autumnal Equinox- equinox translates into "equal night". A time of things coming back into a sense of equilibrium between the intense light and action of summer, and the waning light and time of reflection in winter. I love this time, although autumn is being somewhat elusive this year in Colorado. I can still pretend.
The equinox represents the time to slow down long enough to celebrate the harvest that has resulting from your nurturance of your dreams all year, the fruits of you labor. A time to be in gratitude for your abundance, and the abundance yet to come. And a time of giving and supporting the circle of abundance.
So I encourage you, besides being excited about the Pumpkin Spice lattes, to really take some time to get quite and honor and celebrate yourself. Take time to be with, (and by be with I mean fully present) with your family (soul and/or blood family) and friends, make food from the harvest of the land, and enjoy each others' company. Take time alone and create a sacred space to write or paint all of the things you are grateful for and celebrating this year.
For me, I get to be on retreat on the equinox, time for myself, and also time for sisterhood, with some hot springs dipping thrown in. I am very excited. Its also why the newsletter has arrived in your inbox a little bit early. So I could take the time I need, but also so I could give you some ideas for creating a small ritual of gratitude and honoring, and give you time to prepare.
Take a walk in nature, stop to look at the leaves changing color and gather some of them for your sacred space, or use some to collage onto a journal page.
Light burgundy, orange, or gold candles on the evening of the equinox (Sept. 22nd) also place marigold or chrysanthemum plants on your altar or table. And ears of corn.
Place springs of rosemary or pine needles (I save mine from my Christmas tree from the year before for my equinox bowls) or pine cones in small bowls throughout your spaces.
Take time to journal and reflect on what you are celebrating and what you have accomplished this year. Thank your Creator (or whatever works for you) for all of the abundance you have received, and that you are yet to receive. Cut out leaves in different colors and write on them those things you desire to call in for next year.
Thank anyone who has supported you this year. Or get together with your beloveds and have a meal, and create your "leaves" together. Meals that include corn and grains to honor the harvest, and a comforting soup of veggies is wonderful.
Step out of the madness matrix of social media, being external, and claim time for you to be in reflection as much as possible between now and early January. Seriously, block some time at least once a week on your calendar to step out of the holiday madness and just reflect and vision.
These are some very basic suggestion for an equinox celebration, it can be as simple or as elaborate as you wish. But I do encourage you to take some time on Sunday to be in reverence for all that you have received this year. As always I am here to offer suggestions, and I would love if you do create a sacred space to share some photos with me on my Facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/pg/amusedwomanstudios
We can no longer pretend to not be aware that as a collective women are overworked, overwhelmed, they are giving more energy than what is in the tank, and just plain tired. More and more mainstream self-help books are bringing this to light, and women are resonating with the message. I am not going to discuss how we got here in this transmission, because I don't need to rant today on why the overculture has created this need to do more than what we have available to us, and how we allowed ourselves to be swayed by the story that we need to do, be, and have everything, even things our heart and souls don't really want. So my question to you is; now that you are aware of your own inner journey:
What are you going to do about it?
There is no one or nothing external to us that is going to make a shift or change for us. It is up to each and every one of us to decide for ourselves that we are going to take a stand for ourselves and give ourselves what we need, what our souls crave, and then seek those experiences and people who are there to support us.
So how do you begin to quiet down, slow down, listen to your wisdom and give yourself what you need? I often get questions and resistance around meditation, most women believe they don't have time to meditate, that meditation means sitting on a cushion for an hour, trying to clear your mind of all thoughts. And while that is one way to do it, that is not the only way, and it is a pretty advanced practice, that for most of us in our daily lives is not realistic, and its definitely not the starting point for most of us. And we have to start somewhere.Most women ask how to clear their minds, stop the chatter. I have loads of short and mighty practices that take less than 15 minutes that allow you to tune in, quiet down, and listen to yourself. These shorter practices can bring your energy back into your being, and recharge you. These beginning practices ARE NOT about clearing the mind of all thoughts, but about witnessing without judgement the thoughts that are overwhelming you, checking in with your emotions, and listening to WHAT IS REALLY true in the moment. One of the mightiest ways to do this is to engage the senses, one at a time. The senses have an amazing way of bringing our external world into alignment with our inner world.
“ It is the senses that make the magical, beautiful wonders of the Universe come alive in our mind’s eye. It is this sense of wonder that brings us out of the darkness and into the light. It is our senses that allow us to bring our inner and outer world into alignment.”
Stopping to pay attention to what we are seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting, smelling, sensing with our intuition, really paying attention, and checking in to see how beautiful things are in the moment, how much love is surrounding us in our environments, is an instant way to become present. Paying attention to our senses based on what is right in front of us, rather than being in the madness matrix of media opens us up to the magic and the possibilities of the natural world and our inner selves and gets us out of comparison mode.
So I invite you to take the next 40 days (the amount of time it takes for a new practice to become second nature) and spend at least 10 minutes a day, to just stop and literally smell the roses. Below, I will list a few ideas for each of the senses and if they resonate give it a try or come up with your own. The point being is to fully engage with the sense, and listen to what your wisdom is saying to you, witness the thoughts running through your mind with curiosity not judgement.
Seeing- Stare at a photo or a piece of art, something or someone you love. Really look at it, revel in its beauty, notice something you have never noticed before about that person, or in the piece of art you are looking at. Send and receive love to it/them. Feel the love throughout your whole body, set the intent to open your heart. Imagine your heart and your eyes are both "seeing". Elevated practice- create your own piece of art, find the colors of paint you love most, and just put color to canvas, breath, pay attention, do this intuitively, with no outcome expectations, and without trying to actually draw or paint any particular thing.
Hearing- Sound has an amazing capability to quiet the mind, and balance the left and right hemispheres. Find a piece of music you love (refrain from death metal...lol), and just listen to it, don't do anything else at the same time. Choose music made for sound healing. You can google Binaural Beats, Schumann's Resonance or Shamanic Drum Music and get some really good options, here is what I have been listening to lately https://stellar1.bandcamp.com. Just relax either seated or lying, and JUST LISTEN again with no outcome, let your mind float on the waves of the sounds. Set the intent to be open to hearing whatever your soul has to say. Begin to feel your body relax. Alternatively, go out in nature with the intent of listening to the breeze, the birds, and any other sounds that are in your environment. Just listen. Elevated practice- find a local sound healing or gong bath event, search facebook or meetup. (For resources in Denver please ask I have referrals).
Feeling- The nerve endings in our skin are an amazing information gatherer, our first line of defense against things, but also touch engages and shifts many different neuro-transmitters. Light tough actually overrides our pain receptors. Find a peacock or other soft feather, and just softly wave it over the skin of your entire body. Notice the sensations, how it feels, not what your mind is saying. Set the intent that your body is pure love and is capable of giving you the messages you need to receive. Elevated practices- a long luxurious bath just feeling the sensation of the water on your skin, get a massage...a more gentle connected one, not super deep tissue. Set up a sensual date with yourself or your love and just focus on loving touch and connection.
Tasting- This one may seem obvious, but important because I see so many women depriving themselves of enjoying yummy, decadent food rather than enjoying and savoring the bounty, and what that does to our psyche and energy bodies is a sense of deprivation instead of joy. Food can be healthy and enjoyable. So allow yourself a decadent piece of high quality chocolate, a pastry, whatever feels luscious, honey is amazing for this as it is the elixir of life. And slow down long enough to enjoy how it smells, how it feels on your tongue, how amazing it tastes..really tastes, the different flavors and nuances of what you are eating. Set the intent of nourishing yourself. (Doing it blindfolded is even better). Elevated practice: take yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant, no phones, no other people, and just savor your meal.
Smelling- Our sense of smell is one of the most powerful senses, scent goes directly to the limbic center where we hold memory without having other neuro-transmitters as a way station to interpret the information. Get a dozen roses or find roses out in nature (added benefit of visual beauty and spoiling yourself) or an essential oil that you love and that calms you, and just inhale, breath, pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Thank the plants that have brought you their amazing scent in order to calm and balance you. Set the intent that you can both honor your memories and be completely present in the now. Elevated practice: take a bath with sea salt and rose buds or petals and smell, feel, and see them, allow the plants and the water to wash over you, love you, and cleanse what is no longer serving you.
Intuition- Of course you have heard the term "women's intuition" that is because it is a Divinely given gift that we have been given, but we rarely slow down long enough to listen to it, or if we do, we don't trust it, because we have allowed our logical minds to take over. I believe this practice should be done daily, several times a day, or if you are wrestling with a decision. This should be done, if possible in addition to the other sensory practices. Stop and slow down for a few minutes...morning, mid-day and evening, take some deep breaths with one hand on your heart, and the other on your belly and ask your Inner Wisdom what you need to know in this moment (or a specific question if your monkey mind is taking over on a decision or next step) and just listen for the answer. Know that the answer may come as a whisper, a visual, a feeling your body, or just a knowing depending on which intuitive channel is strongest for you. Journal the response, as it may not make sense to you initially, but it will over time. Elevated practice- Do not question your wisdom, follow its advice every time you stop to ask and journal the results.
I hope these practices begin to shift your energy towards slowing down and connecting with yourself without having to spend a lot of time each day. As times goes on we can work together to go deeper and elevate. But as I said, you gotta start somewhere.
I also wanted to mention, I will be sending the newsletter for next week early on the 19th or 20th with a short Equinox teaching and ritual or practice, rather than my normal Sunday email, because the Equinox is on Sunday the 22nd, and I will be on retreat so I wanted to offer you something you could do for yourself that day.
I'm a little tired, I am not going to lie. And so I have honored the need to rest while I am in a very active time in my work, both inner and outer. I have learned to look at my years and my vision from the perspective of my rhythms, the rhythms of nature, my family, and of my beloveds. I have learned that I have patterns that sometimes match nature and the seasons and sometimes don't. But looking at life and work from this view makes visioning and planning more natural, more aligned.
For example as I look at past and future years, I know I have the most energy from August-November, and need rest, reflection and vision time during later November, December, and most of January. And is it happens that is aligned with when nature goes dormant, and most of you are busy with holiday stuff, or perhaps honoring your need to reflect. And then I go quite active again from February through May, and once again need rest, water, family and beach time. I used to not honor that and try to do things when it was not in alignment for me, or I would load up my calendar before and after vacations, only to cancel everything because I would go into overwhelm. Now I just don't do it. YES, I break most of the golden rules the business and life coach gurus will tell you. Don't stop business for a month at a time, you will fail, you won't meet you goals, you definitely won't make money blah, blah, bullshit. It is when I force, work myself into overwhelm, and don't honor myself that things bust at the seams, that I cannot create anything or be fully present to my life and to my work. When I honor the ebbs and flows, things naturally come to me.
And even in the very active times, I build in rest, reflection, creative time. Or again I am no good to anyone. Every Friday is my sacred time to do whatever I choose to do. It is a MUST. Today, I honored a nap, because I felt tired, and I love naps. And I usually get my most inspired ideas right as I am settling in to a cozy nap.
Also when we plan and vision in the traditional way as opposed to the rhythmic way, there is no stopping to honor what has already been accomplished, and it is usually all about creating new and more stuff! This is a lesson I continue to learn for myself, sometimes if you build something and give it your energy, it ultimately has a life of its own, and can go on maintenance mode where it bears fruit but doesn't need all of your energy. But often we do something once, and then never again, and rather than let that continue to work for us, we start creating more stuff to manage. I am so guilty of this. My mentor tells me I love to be in creator/destroyer mode instead of maintainer mode. So that is my work for the next several months, and what I personally will be working with in my Sacred Vision Garden class. Those things that can be harvested over and over, year after year, like a fruit tree, just needing a little attention but not all of my energy. And not saying, oh yeah, been there done that,so I am done with it. Let's do a whole bunch of new stuff, planting tons of new seeds that need a lot of nurturing and energy, and not always planting them at the right time. Does any of this ring true or sound familiar to you?
This is what I am inviting you to sit with, and the reason I am gathering women to look at what they are harvesting during this harvest time. What can go dormant, and what is ripe and ready to blossom next spring, and perhaps plant just one or two new seeds...and not in January when they will not thrive. How about looking at your life and business visions now, so you can go into the holidays with a sense of ease, allowing yourself to reflect and spend time with your family and come into 2019 knowing that you don't have to start a whole bunch of new to-do's in January but continue to nurture what is already working for you, and wrap those trees in a warm blanket.
For those of you here in Denver I invite you to join me to create your Sacred Vision Garden and look at what your natural rhythms are, how to honor them, and how to create a life and vision that is in support of that. This can also be offered in a one on one setting, either in person or virtually.
I would love to hear how you honor the harvest at this time of year, in your life, in your business, and your spirit.